Q&A

Thanks to one and all for sending in your queries regarding your life changes (and the changes of those in your life), and the increasing awareness of well, ah, awareness! For those who’ve had their questions answered (whether or not those answers have been posted on this page) I thank you for your responses regarding your readings.

Again, I wish to congratulate those who’ve responded to my Q&A readings with a new attitude about their lives. We’re all in this together. Know time like the present and life becomes a gift.

AQUARIUS

Elaine – thanks for your voice.  I said outloud last year that I felt as tho
I was being rebirthed.  I meant it in the most literal way.  I have been so
dormant, locked down, now I feel like it’s here.  I can sense so much is
happening and yet I am not sure what to do.  I want SO much to take up my
space – be all I can – and I’m afraid because I am unsure if I know how to
proceed.

How can I know how to open up to hear and get all that I can out this time
in areas of love, and work and my self?

Thanks, Linda
Born February 2, 1965 at 6:05am in San Francisco, ca, usa

Dear Linda,

You are being rebirthed. I’m sure since you wrote this email, the worst of it is over. You’re an Aquarius, Capricorn rising, Aquarius moon.

You need to TRUST that your needs are met. Trust that as you allow yourself to be present in each and every day, you’ll find the open door that keeps moving to the right or the left. What is this? A cosmic joke or something? I do what I need to do and then I have to do it again, in a different way?

I know, I empathize. Now say it with me, “I endure.”  Now stop saying that! Aren’t you tired of enduring? We know you can hang on with your last fingernail.

Soon, very soon, like next month! You’re going to need to face that cell, that one sticking point in you that says you’re not enough. Make room in your calendar and set aside a month of healing. Get rid of this annoying cellular memory that has nothing to do with the truth.

This coming month might look like a job loss. It might look like you get m ore responsibility without the time or knowhow to get it done. Who keeps moving that open door? Get me outta here! You may scream. Stop.

Sit still. Breathe. There is an opportunity to face your illusion. You need to breathe. Find a network chiropractor and breathe. Seems you only allow yourself time when you  have to pay for it. Aren’t you tired of HAVING TO PAY FOR LIVING?

My Dear One, you are not a mistake. You are Pure Conscious Love, lost in a moment of chaos. There is also order to chaos. Sit still and breathe. Inhale light, exhale light. Expand yourself.

Your cells are in trauma. Stop any chemicals that don’t regulate your rhythms. Then if those chemicals numb, prepare to stop them, too.

You need to be very sober to get past this one moment of bullshit that says you’re not enough.

Who was the addict in your family? Who did and did and did and never got it done? Who was  YOUR MIRROR to all work and no play?

Stop emulating a distorted picture of yourself.

Read anything by Caroline Myss (pronounced Mace). Get some muscle testing for emotional release done.

As I wrote this, Pluto went from your 11th house to your 12th house. (no shit.) and That  means you are currently coming up to speed with your fears and limitations. There is a way out. You  have to commit yourself to finding that way and sticking with it.

Allow yourself to receive. It’s safe to receive, safe to receive. There are a bandy of Angels who’d LOVE to help you. Ask.

Then be patient as they work through your dense layers of bull. (you should see how dense my layers are!) hello? Who put out the light?

You. And you can turn it back on again.

Write down the fears on a piece of paper. Instead of saying, “I’m afraid of…” say, “Fear of…is present.” As if it sat across the table from you. Then ask it what it needs. Then use your imagination like a cartoon and use your laser blaster to get rid of it. Then watch Contact, again, and tell yourself, I had no idea…..

You have no idea how big you are, yet. But next month is almost here.  You are karma free girl. Don’t go backwards.  Be present and repeat….I only allow what is beneficial to enter  my life right now.

And if a doctor comes and says that you’ve entered early menopause or that your ‘allergies’ are really your body’s way of saying, “I’m not enough” then you know exactly where you stand. Or sit…..sit and breathe.

Hope this has helped. Be well, Elaine Marolakos Edelson

Q: I am an Aquarius – deep in change and rebirthing…

I’ve realized I am completely surrounded by Taurus’s -
many significant people in my life are Taurus’s.

I know there is a HUGE lesson there – I can feel it -
I just don’t know what it is?

any words of encouragement?

Dear Aquarian,
Well, without your name and birth info to read your energy, all I can say is that Taureans are methodical, loyal, and very dedicated to making a partnership work. Taureans are also very stubborn and defensive.

If you can allow yourself to be open and clear without having to KNOW, then you’ll fight your changes less and have a much easier time.
Meditation helps as does being with people. Gather some of these friends of yours and have a bull session—literally—play some sort of truth or dare game and do your best to be as honest as possible.

See your behavior when one of your Taurean friends needs help. You’re quick to give advice and help, but are you ready to take the same dosage?

Then have another party with only one person. A strong person that you feel respect for (and an underlying uncomfortable feeling when you’re alone with this person.) Are you really being honest with them? What makes you feel that you’re second in line or that there’s not enough to go around?
Find the parts of you that need to compete with this person or any person and tell yourself that your needs are met.

Read, “Keeping the love you find,” by Harville Hendrix PhD and then go to a bookstore and say to yourself, “I only allow what is beneficial to enter” and head toward the self help section or the Buddhist section or whatever section you’re guided and scan the shelves as you repeat, “I only allow what is beneficial to enter.” And see what you come up with.

I hope this helps. Hang in there. Look up every now and then and remember that you came here by choice. It’s up to you to remember why.

I, as a Taurean (May 3), can tell you that in my opinion, we are Pure Conscious Love and have the ability to create anything. And look what we’re making. Is it possible that with your next five moments, you can create something full, compassionate, fun, lively, with the potential to take you into the next five moments?

Take deep breaths—inhale Light, exhale Light until you’re all light. I mean, all right.
Hope this helps, Be well, Elaine Marolakos Edelson

Q-Elaine, I have always been afraid to sleep at night, even when I was a little girl.  What am I afraid of?  My name is Cynthia, born 1/26/53.

A-Cynthia, thank you for your email. Okay…here’s what I get—around the time you were 2ish…you were shocked out of your sleep by a very disturbing event or sound. It was so loud it actually startled me when I read your name. I wouldn’t be surprised if you were held and dropped because of this sound or event.

If you could call in during a future show, I’d like to help clear you of this experience. The lack of trust that surrounded this experience for you is huge. It’s not just the dark but all that it represents for you—each night your body relives the memory of this particular event and says “I’m not safe.”

In fact I’m going to do an EFT clearing on you by proxy and let’s see how things go. I’ll tap with your name in mind and cover as much of the issue as I can without you present and we’ll see if you can heal this way. But I do recommend you call in so I can connect with your voice—to help clear you that way. There’s a lot of anger around your last name. It would be very helpful for you to do the following exercise..In fact I recommend this exercise to so many clients. I even do this exercise in my Salons.

Grab a piece of paper and a pen. Write down your full name. For example I’ll use a made up name….Cynthia Jane Brenner. Okay. Now you’re going to imagine a dinner party and there are three people there: Cynthia, Jane, and Brenner.  So now on paper Cynthia is going to have a written dialogue with Jane. The two of them talk on paper about how they’re feeling. When you feel like you’re done with that conversation then start a new dialogue between your first name and your last name—in this instance between Cynthia and Brenner. Then the last dialogue will take place between Jane and Brenner. (or your middle name and your last name).   You will be amazed at what feelings come up and what revelations emerge when you have a conversation with all of your names.  Thank you for your email Cynthia and please call in during a future show.

Q- Elaine, I’ve been listening to your words for years. I’m a fan from way back to the early years of The Whole Cosmos. I’ve watched you take off into your own stratosphere and wow. I look at you as a beacon for my own development.

My birthday is February 18, 1954. Long ago you gave me a reading and told me that I’d need to face a difficult time in my life as I let go of the attachment to my mother, who is now 89 years of age.  I didn’t fully understand the implications of your insight until very recently.

I’ve had a successful business life and have traveled the world over twice. I’m very fortunate and yes, still single, but have a gentleman in my life who now cares for me and we hope to grow together.

I never really thought that I was attached in an unhealthy way to my mother. She’s Asian and very independent. Her health was great for ever and now she’s suddenly grown weak and very dependent upon me and it’s taking it’s toll on my relationship with my friend. I moved her into my house and closed up her house and put it on the market. We were able to sell just before things got stale in the real estate market. My question is, how do I set a boundary with her without feeling so much guilt and, as odd as it sounds, remorse for not giving her a better life. I know she only has so much time left on this earth, but she is driving me crazy with her neediness and I’m at my wits end.

I’m thinking about a nursing home but it’s breaking my heart. I had no idea I’d feel so responsible for this woman, who was a less than decent mother in my youth, coming from an Asian culture where girls were treated less than boys.

I appreciate your insights and thank you in advance, Daisy.

A–Well, Daisy, first I love your name. And to have that name for an Asian woman it makes me smile. I know from our recent session together that you were given two first names. One American and one Asian. That’s the true mark of a Gemini Rising sign. And I also have a Gemini friend who is of Chinese descent and also has two names…one I cannot pronounce because I cannot speak Mandarin…that alone must have been an odd thing growing up. Oh, but I digress….it’s late in the day and I’m ready for a lie down.

Okay, You’re an Aquarius sun Sign and a Gemini Rising sign. I’m sure it’s been quite a shock to have your freedom for so long and then suddenly feel beholding to your mother. All the feelings of childhood surge upward when we’re faced with caring for our elders. So it seems time to start to let her go without losing your mind.

The Lunar Eclipse in Aquarius, August 2008 is an indication that you will begin to see the beginning of your mother’s passage. But more to the point is you’ll begin to see the end of your attachment to a negative viewpoint of nurturing.

You didn’t exactly have the most affectionate mother and that’s mostly due to her cultural experience in her youth but it also has a lot to do with the fact that you, as an Aquarian, are not comfortable with so much touchy feely stuff and then add to that a Gemini rising sign and your temperament is not geared for overly feminine things. Which isn’t to say that you’re not a feminine woman, but you exude more masculine, independent energy.

But how did that leave you with receiving? You worked hard and make a very independent life for yourself and you’re certainly at no loss for money. But you’ve never been married or in a serious relationship until now. How intriguing that now, as your mother is beginning to diminish in this life, and how you’re beginning to expand in the area of personal relationships.

Perhaps it wasn’t safe until now.  A lot of times when a parent begins to pass, a person will purge old feelings or conflicts. Death brings new life.

So even if your mother is beginning to leave, your old feelings are emerging. You’re going to grow tremendously in the next few months. I feel very strongly that your mother will by passing within 3 to 4 months. During this time it’s okay to set boundaries with her. But make sure you’re not acting out a 45 or 50 year old temper tantrum. Get help in your home for her. A part time nurse helps tremendously.

Now, to deal with those guilt feelings. This is a touchy area and the bottom line is that guilt serves no purpose except to make a slave out of someone’s emotions.  If you feel obligated to help someone, then eventually you will resent them.

If you give from a place of compassion, then you give with the idea that you already have a boundary in place. That when you’re tired or need your own space, you can say without guilt…”okay, I care about you and I’m caring for you. But now I’ve got to go do this thing for myself.” and go and do what you need to do for you.

The feelings deep down that say you’re not giving her the life she should have had were those feelings of guilt from long ago. When you were small and saw your mother struggle as a single woman in a foreign land, that’s not easy for any child to bear, really. but you can give to her now from a different place. You have the money to care for her and you can give her your time but remember to give only when you are coming from compassion.

Here’s an exercise you can do to help.

Sit quietly and close your eyes. Imagine yourself sitting in a beautiful place with trees, birds or perhaps you hear a fountain or a waterfall or maybe it’s completely silent. But this is your sanctuary from a busy world of emotions.

This is your sanctuary. Nice deep breaths and in this place see a path in front of you. See your mother walking toward you on this path. Allow her to come closer. She’s right in front of you. Imagine you can inhale right now and as you exhale a glowing light streams from your body and extends to her. Surround her in light. Now see strings coming from your heart center to hers. Pull those strings with one hand and with your other hand cut the strings close to your chest and then cut the strings close to her chest. Free yourself from the ties that bind in unhealthy ways.

You’re both surrounded in light and free to be compassionate with each other. Okay now nice deep breath in and exhale. Open your eyes.

You may care to do this exercise prior to seeing her on a daily basis until you automatically feel compassion when you think of her.

Daisy, thank you for your kind words and for your letter.
I hope this helps.